Saturday, April 16, 2011

Marry Me

Have you heard this song by train? "Marry Me" Jake has been sending me songs that remind him of me, or that he thinks I would like, he sent me this one the other day. I had heard it before and liked it, but now that I know Jake thinks of me when he listens to it, I just can't stop listening to it.

I love that it says "Marry me, today and every day." Because the truth is I didn't just make a commitment to marry jake on June 5th, 2010. That was just the day I made it a public vow. I make a commitment to be his wife, every single day. When I wake up in the morning I make the choice to be his wife, to be what he needs me to be. Some days I do better at that job than others, I'm not trying to claim that I'm some perfect fabulous wife at all. I am just saying that I've recognized that being married is about a daily commitment to each other.

Lately I have struggled with the fact that there are so many broken marriages out there. I try every single day to strive to be the best wife I can possibly be for Jake (again, sometimes I'm not the best wife, but that doesn't mean I don't try) and so I have tried to educate myself on what I can do to be better for him. However, I feel like so many of the resources out there for becoming a better wife, are for failing or struggling marriages, they are for fixing something thats broken. At this point in our marriage we aren't there. And I pray to our good Lord every day, that we won't ever get there. I'm looking to learn how to strengthen the unbroken. I want to learn about what I can do to prevent that from happening, not what to do once it does happen. I understand that we are just newlyweds, and I'm not saying we are better than any other couple, I just thrive on optimism. I refuse to let my marriage struggle because all the books say it's going to. On top of all the marriage books I have looked into, and the other couples I have talked to, I have Army related people telling me doom and gloom stories for us as well. I am sick of hearing that  we won't be in love anymore when he comes home. or that it won't be a happy time. I fully accept that I might be being naive, but please just let me live in the fact that I have a very happy marriage. Because at this point in my life, I have very little else that is as important to me, than the work and effort I put into my marriage, so it's really hard to hear that so many write it off so easily. Jake and I are both in this for the long haul, so I pray that those that are jaded and cynical will have their hearts softened, and their opinions kept to themselves.


  1. Every Marriage/Relationship is differnt, with different problems. Nobody but you and Jake know how to work through any problems you guys might (but probably wont) have down the road :) This deployent is probably going to be the hardest thing you both will have to go through together, as a couple, and look how amazing you guys have done so far. and we are how many months into this deployment? You two are an amazing couple, yes you will have problems, but I see you two laughing your way through them :) Stay Strong♥
    Love you!

  2. Well said, friend Emily :)

    Too add, you totally hit the nail on the head, Mrs Grimm! You never stop studying your husband! Learn about him, educate yourself in the Jake classes and never stop :) The more you love him, the more it allllll just works :D aw yeeeaaaaah.

    whoops? did that sound dirty? it wasn't dirty in my head until I re-read it. Hmmmm To post or not to post.... *shrug* dirty is ok! You're married! ;D