BACK!

So sorry I have abandoned you guys! I have been enjoying my time with my husband home!! It has been amazing!! I love having him home! We have done so much together and have just spent time hanging out. Life is perfect. We still have no idea about our future, whether we will stay National Guard or get to go Active Duty, but at least we will be together no matter what.

We are at this odd (but wonderful) stage in our marriage. In one sense we are newlyweds, we only had a few married months together before he left, and those months were filled with week long trainings every few weeks. So now that he is home we are actually having the chance to experience this newly married stage that wasn't really available to us before. But in another sense we have experienced so much in our marriage that I feel like we have the wisdom and experience of an older married couple. now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we're the best or anything like that, I'm just saying that through the year long deployment we have had, it has caused us to "grow up" in our relationship faster than most need to. So, this combination of newlywed meets wisdom is kind of amazing, and totally working for us right now. We have learned how to communicate with each other best, and what works for us.

Recently we have made a very important discovery for our relationship. We have discovered that because we are a team all things need to be solved as a team. We know each other well enough that chances are if something is bothering one of us, the other can tell. Now, what we have learned is instead of internalizing our problems and coming up with solutions on our own, we need to go to the other person and discuss our solutions together. This might sound like a very obvious thing, but for us it was not. For both of us we didn't want to bother the other person if we didn't have to. we would internalize things that we conceived as "personal problems" and would come up with our own solutions. but here is the problem with that, there is no such thing as a personal problem in a marriage. My stuff effects me AND my husband, so I am not capable of solving MY problems alone, because they are not MY problems they are OURs. This realization is liberating! We have promised to seek help from each other and to share our problems. We no longer have to worry about anything alone, that is one reason we got married in the first place, so a year and half later we are finally embracing it.

I hope you guys enjoyed the peak into our lives, and I promise to be back more often!!

I'm back!!! Sorry that I have basically abandoned you guys lately, but I have been a little pre occupied with this stinky boy of mine ;) I love having him home! I love lazy days, and busy days, and any day in between. He just makes me so happy! I love doing his laundry, cooking for him, and doing his dishes. Having him home might mean more housework, but I will gladly do more house work any day if it means I get smooches!!!
here are a few highlights from the past 2 weeks

This was at the homecoming ceremony, the sign says "SCP GRIMM, always under the same stars, finally under the same roof"

We went to a cook out with a few of the other families from the unit

We went kayaking with the Davis' and the West's (it was freaking FREEZING)

Yesterday we ran the Warrior Dash in Ohio with the Kosten's!

I am basically a viking warrior princess.

This week we are going on a CRAZY camping/canoeing  trip in Minnesota at the boundary waters with some of our friends from the unit (do you see a theme? everyone we've hung out with is from the unit) so get excited  to read all about it!!!

Finally the thursday I've been waiting for!!!

JAKE IS ON AMERICAN SOIL!!!!!
he is not in my arms, but he is safely in the country!! so because I am sure in the coming weeks I will be MIA I am going to do our homecoming song this week :)
so go link up with good night moon (on her GORGEOUS new blog design) and enjoy what everyone is rocking to this week.

I chose this song because it explains exactly how our relationship is. Even after everything, he is still the one for me ;)

WELCOME HOME 1436th SOLDIERS! Can't wait to welcome you home in person!

Happy Thursday!

YAY for thursday!! I love this link up with Good Night Moon (If anything it at least keeps me blogging every Thursday, sorry I've been abandoning you guys lately) Today I am going to buckle down and clean the crap out of my house, so that its nice and perfect for when Jake comes home which is still *soon* So today I picked a great get up and start moving and dance around song :)

Does anybody else think that Blondie looks a lot like Tea Leoni?

I can't wait to see everybody's songs :) 

it's thursday again!

Well I am a whole week closer to seeing my husband :) It's just frustrating that I have no idea when I'm going to see him, but soon. So my song this week for Good Night Moon's song link up is "I can wait forever" by Simple Plan. because at this point I feel like I have been waiting FOR.EV.ER!!! (can you tell I have patience problem?) Hope you all enjoy the song this week, hopefully in the next couple weeks I can have a real homecoming song up here for you guys (is it bad that I already have that one picked out? haha)

The Un-hirable Nanny...

My husband is trying to go active duty, because he knows that being a soldier is his calling, it's what God made him to do. He would like to make his sole living by being an active duty soldier, instead of a national guard soldier, where he is only a soldier a few times a month (the saying goes 1 weekend a month 2 weeks a year, but thats not really that accurate), and has to have a civilian job to support us. This process is long and drawn out, and is the entire reason he is deployed currently. We do not know if this request will be granted, and if it is, We do know we will be moved to a base somewhere but we do not know when or where that will be. We do know that if we move it will not be until after Thanksgiving, and possibly quite longer than that. So now, as his wife, I am trying to find a job, to help keep us a float for the next three (or more) months after he comes home to no civilian job, and we are just waiting to go active. Let me tell you how frustrating this is. Nobody wants to hire a nanny that may be moving in 3 months, and I'm not willing to be dishonest about that fact, because I truly believe in full disclosure. But this totally stinks, I have already sacrificed so much for this country, I have spent the last YEAR away from my husband, we have given up so much so that my husband can defend this country, and now I have to give up on finding a job as well? That hardly seems fair... I feel like if anything, the fact that I a military spouse should work in my FAVOR in getting a nanny job, not against me. I am feeling very defeated at this point, I still have some more interviews lined up, and hopefully my dream nanny job is out there for me. But so far, I could totally see it in their faces when they interview me and they ask "How long would you plan on staying with us?" that mental delete button is pushed, and I lose any chance I had of getting the job. It just breaks my heart that I have sacrificed so much and nobody even really appreciates it, and nobody is willing to go out on a limb and hire me. I am a college educated woman with 4-6 years of extensive child care experience, it's not as if I am not qualified for a nanny position. It is very clear that this is the main reason I keep losing the positions I interview for, and it is frustrating. I will sacrifice anything for this family, and I am willing to even give up having a job so my husband can fulfill his dream of being a soldier, I am not upset about that at all, I am just a little concerned about how we are expected to make ends meet for the next 3 months if I am "un-hirable" because we MIGHT be moving.

Thursday song Link up!

It's thursday!!!! you all know what that means! Head over to good night moon and link up with your songs!




 Homecoming is getting very very close, and I can't wait to see my husband. I am going quite stir crazy here, so here is my song of the week: